I am fixated on praxis, elegance, civility and appreciation at Master's
Den and the world in general. I feel occasionally people mingle
elegance and civility in a perception that they are the same. Elegance
is luxurious while having a restraint of excess and the presence of
grace combined with precision. Civility is the courtesy which requires
the restraint of excess and presence of precision to perform gracefully
in action and speech. Therefore, one can exist without the other;
however, they are often intermingled. Established custom or praxis
assists in creating elegance and civility and also fosters a sense of
appreciation about human interactions. Appreciation builds loyalty and
loyalty creates a family or a cohesive unit.
These are qualities I try to foster at Master's Den and I encourage
them through the use of Socializing, Learning & Exploring with new
and old relationships and boundaries and rewards. I know many patrons
are reminded before each event of the importance of civility and how to
honor another's submissive. I certainly am happy to say each Master's
Den only creates a large community awareness of customs concerning a
collar. With the addition of positions to present your submissive or
yourself, Master's Den can create commonalities between dominants and
submissives with a set of OPTIONAL physical protocols. Master's Den has
NEVER REQUIRED protocols beyond civility; however, my hope is to give
those that wish to experience physical protocol or to use physical
protocol a base line that allows us an elegant and civil manner to
share this praxis I am fond of.
The Master's Den Postures:
They are tags and clues picked by the Submissives at Master's Den that
help start negotiation. A submissive choses a card or cards to wear.
Why should/would I want to enter the auction?
The auction is first and foremost an icebreaker.It's a tool to allow you to communicate your needs and connect with a Dominant/top who wants the same things you want. Who knows- you might meet that special someone! Of course, there's also just the thrill of being in an auction- what BDSM fantasy book doesn’t involve an auction of some sort?
The right to negotiate in good faith for a scene, nothing more. No one is guaranteed a scene out of this process. It’s a good idea to be somewhat conservative in the scenes you list/describe on the auction card- start basic, with something you’d be willing to do with pretty much any Dominant/top who buys you, and then you can always negotiate for MORE if you hit it off.
I'm almost sure you will be. There are a large number of Doms/tops who have been looking forward to this auction and really want to do scenes and meet new partners, and I know they are not planning to let any of the girls go un-sold! Just be sure to be specific but not overly restrictive in the scenes you describe on the auction cards. For example, you might have a hard time being bought if you say you ONLY want to be sold for a scene where you’ll be suspended and then have a violet wand used on you.
What support do I have after the auction?
After or before the auction, you may choose to fill out one of the MD negotiation forms (or bring your own form) to give to the winning bidder as a way to get the negotiations started. You may also ask a Den Mother (wearing a red rose) to sit in on the negotiations and help you in the process. This same Den Mother can, upon your request, keep an eye on your scene while it’s in progress to make sure everything is OK. Also, the DMs are there for you- tell them what sort of scene you’ll be doing, non-verbal safewords, hard limits, etc, and they can keep an eye on you (but keep in mind that they have to be watching the entire dungeon!).
I like a lot of things! What should I list on the card?
It might seem like being vague is a good way to be bought, but we've found that it's better to give the bidders something specific to think about. Make sure to start BASIC with something you’re willing to do with just about any Dom/top who wins the auction. You can ALWAYS expand your negotiations or hook up for another scene later if you hit it off. For a first scene, it is always a good idea to keep it short and sweet- as they say in showbiz, leave the stage while the audience is still clapping! It may be a good idea to specify a time limit- you could always decide to expand it. If you pick one scene that’s pretty specific (play piercing, for example) try to pick a second scene that’s more open. Some examples to get you thinking: